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168 Ways To Communicate Better Now – 120 – 121 – 122

120. Visualize outcomes.

It will clarify your objectives.

Seeing is believing.

Others will buy into your vision.  

121. Visualize success.

It will be a magnet.

It makes the journey easier.

It makes the dream real.  

122. Volunteer.

Others need your help.

You need to be useful.

You will understand humanity better.

You’ll improve lives.

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Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude – Key 9

Be appreciative

            Others have sacrificed for you. Many have gone out on a limb for you. You are the recipient of the efforts of others.  Appreciation on your part is always an appropriate attitude.  Let others know how grateful you are for what they have done for you. None of us get there on our own. We have all had a helping hand. Think about the last good thing that happened to you. Who was involved? How did you meet them? Who introduced you? Why were they there? My wife is a teacher because her ninth grade teacher saw the potential in her that no one else had seen or encouraged. One person made the difference. One person fanned the flame that resulted in a lifetime of helping countless others reach their potential. Appreciation doesn’t cost a cent, but the dividends keep growing and growing. Adopt an attitude of appreciation. In twenty eight years of teaching imagine how many lives Carol influenced.

Carol in Central Park

Carol in Central Park

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Be a Magnet for Ideas – Key 8

Be open

            Be a magnet for new ideas. Don’t demean an idea or an approach because it hasn’t been tried before. Who knows? It may be great. If not, so what? What have you lost? At least you know one more thing that doesn’t work. It is an amazing phenomenon; those who are open to new ideas somehow get more new ideas. They become attractors for new ideas. Many say, if it isn’t broke don’t fix it. Just because it isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it can’t be better. Don’t close off the possibilities. “What if,” can be your best friend.

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52 Keys for Living, Loving and Working

            What are the keys that unlock the door to a fuller, richer, happier, more fulfilling life? What are those ingredients that foster mental, physical and spiritual well being? These questions are as old as time. No one has all of the answers, but centuries of human struggles and triumphs have revealed the ones that seem to be most effective when cultivated and exercised over a long period of time. There may be others that work well for you.  Add them to the ones presented here. All of humanity constantly strives to uncover the secrets that lead to a sense of well being and fulfillment. Although we all strive for happiness, the wisdom of the ages argues that happiness seems to be a byproduct of how we live our lives rather than a strategy to be mastered. The direction of all life is toward growth. Each experience, each encounter, each revelation prepares us for the next.  Each new insight opens even more vistas to us. Life continues to unfold before us if we are open to receive the lessons and if we are willing to push our boundaries beyond what we already know and what feels safe. The abundant life we crave does not reside in safety. Unless we are willing to step out in unknown territory and make ourselves vulnerable to pain and uncertainty our lives will remain unfulfilled and dim shadows of what could be. Life is meant to be an adventure into discovering who we are and our relationship to one another. Life is made up of a series of ever changing, ever evolving relationships that touch and create other relationships.

The Centrality of Faith

Faith is the foundation of all relationships, with God, with our self, and with others. We establish and develop relationships through faith. We decide whether or not we want to establish or maintain a relationship based on a mutual understanding that states, I believe that this will be good for each of us. We also decide whether or not to enter into a faith relationship with God and at what level. According to the Holy Bible only a minute measure of faith is required – our faith only needs to be as great as a mustard seed which is the smallest seed known. “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” We must also have some measure of faith toward ourselves. This requires that we know who we are and what we are about – not an easy task. Establishing relationships demonstrates a basic faith that there is a tomorrow – a reason to live, love and hope.

The Keys

Be present                  

            Be present is by far the most important key. Be in the moment with your whole being not thinking of what will come next or what has happened in the past. Be in this moment fully committed to it. We need to glean from each moment what it has to reveal to us. This is the now. What is happening this very instant? We cannot detain the moment, or recall it, but we can easily miss it.

            When we are at work, we spend much of our time thinking about what we would like to be doing at home. Sometimes we are planning our vacation, thinking about our daughter’s impending wedding, thinking about our grandchildren or perhaps retirement. Our mind has temporarily taken flight. We are not present with the current project or with the other people in the room. We miss what is taking place in the moment.

            When we are at home, we think about what awaits at work again missing the now. We miss the smiles, sparkling eyes, sighs, stiffened body language and the lilt in the voice. We are focused on another place and time.

            Liza Minnelli, the fabulous Oscar, Emmy, Tony, and Grammy winner, has it right when she says, “If you’ve got one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow, you’re missing today.”[1]


[1] Liz Smith. Parade Magazine. March 01, 2009

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Trust, Integrity are the Basis of Successes Throughout Life

My dad loved his pickup truck. He drove it everywhere except to church and to visit me in Charleston.

I don’t know why he sold it. Perhaps it was mother’s Alzheimer’s or his retirement, but he grieved for that truck. On the way home from town one day he saw a similar truck for sale. He bought it on the spot.

“Didn’t you drive it first?” I asked.

“No,” he said.

“Didn’t you at least bargain on the price?’I continued.

“Listen,” he said. “I have known that man all of my life. He isn’t going to cheat me.”

“That’s naive,” I can hear you saying. But wouldn’t you like to trust like that? More important, wouldn’t you like to be trusted that way? What a reputation! What a testimony to both men!

Trust is the number one trait we want in our leaders, supervisors, significant others, and friends.

Twenty-five years ago when I was searching for a chief audiologist for the Charleston Speech and Hearing Center, Dr. Doug McDonald, director of the speech and hearing program at the Veterans Hospital in Columbia and someone whom I respect greatly, told me, “If you can persuade Stuart Cohen to come to Charleston, you’ll have a winner.”

Stuart and I worked together for 22 years in an unbelievable professional relationship. I often heard Stuart counseling patients about the purchase of a hearing aid. Many times he was persuading the patient that he/she did not need to buy the most expensive model or that he/she was not ready for one at all. This in spite of the great profit to be made in the sale of hearing aids, but Stuart chose his integrity and ours over profit.

Consequently he built a large following of people who trusted his every word. After attending the burial service for Stuart’s father, David, and listening to the eulogies I know where that trust in the truth came from.

What greater compliment can there be than, he is a man of his word or she is a woman of her word?

Too many people make glib promises that they have no intention of carrying out. “Oh, leave it to me. I’ll take care of it.”

The reason I like management by objectives as a planning strategy so much is that it provides a clear-cut decision making process. At the end of the specified time there are only two possible answers – yes I did or no I didn’t. It is a process that can help establish credibility.

In many ways business is suffering. Part of it is due to the economic conditions before the events of Sept. 11. Some of it is due to the events of Sept. 11, but much of it is due to the lack of credible service.

Businesses do not stand behind their products or do not provide dependable quality service.

There is a wonderful sales adage that says, “Promise a lot; deliver more.” If you can’t deliver then don’t make the promise. Customers will respect and accept honesty. Don’t string people along. Don’t bait and switch.

Trust is earned one transaction at a time.

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