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Empathize – Key 50

           How do we know how we would behave under the same circumstances? Put yourself in the other person’s position before you condemn or ridicule. Feel his or her pain. Share his or her joy. It is easy to judge when we are not involved. We can never know what is going on inside another person. We do not know what his or her world is like. Be kinder than necessary because everyone is struggling with some problem. Do not say that you know how she or he feels because you do not. You may have had similar circumstances, but you are not the same. It is often easier to empathize with pain than it is for joy. Envy often gets in the way of our pleasure about someone else’s joy. Resist envy. You can truly feel joy for someone else.

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Console – Key 46

            Be there for those who are distressed, lonely, forgotten. Words are often not necessary. Sometimes just being there is enough. At times of trouble people want your presence not your presents. Money and material things can not heal hurt or sorrow, but love can, friendship can, thoughtfulness can. Be 100% present. Do not be distracted by anything but be fully focused on the one who needs you. Do not pretend that you know what he or she is going through or that you understand his or her feelings. Each one of us experiences pain in different ways. Don’t say, “It’s God’s will.” You do not know the mind of God. Our role is just to be there.

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