Mitch Carnell » Listen

168 Ways To Communicate Better Now Plus Two – 22 – 23 – 24

Mitch — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 13:17:12 +0000

22. Be empathetic.

Experience the joys of others.

Experience the pain of others.

Experience the struggles of others.

23. Be enthusiastic.

Be eager.

Be supportive.

Be excited.

Be energetic.

24. Be fair.

Be honest.

Be open.

Listen.

168 Ways To Communicate Better Now – 143 – 144 – 145

Mitch — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 04:00:39 +0000

143. Don’t inflame others.

You have enough enemies.

Don’t give your enemies ammunition.

It isn’t productive.

Conciliation is better.

144. Don’t intimidate.

It doesn’t work long term.

There is no place left to go.

They might be better at it than you are.

145. Don’t jump to conclusions.

You may miss the boat.

You might miss a real opportunity.

Ask for clarification.

It obscures the possibilities.

168 Ways To Communicate Better Now – 105 – 106 – 107

Mitch — Mon, 09 May 2011 04:00:51 +0000

105. Speak loud enough.

People want to hear you.

Ear strain creates anxiety.

You won’t be misquoted as often.

106. Stay calm.

You can think more clearly.

You won’t create panic.

You’ll live longer.

107. Stop talking.

Give others a chance.

You will gain respect.

You will appear to be wise.

Attend with your entire body.

168 Ways To Communicate Better Now -87 – 88 – 89

Mitch — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 15:06:08 +0000

87. Mingle.

Don’t hug the wall.

Don’t monopolize one person.

Share your charm.

Encourage others to follow your lead.

88. Pause often.

Pauses are more dramatic.

Pausing gives your listener a chance to think about your ideas.

Pauses help hold the listener’s attention.

89. Pay attention.

Be 100% present.

Maintain eye contact with the speaker.

Don’t fidget.

168 Ways To Communicate Better Now – 81 – 82 – 83

Mitch — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 04:03:46 +0000

81. Listen.

You will gain insight.

You will gain knowledge.

You will make friends.

You will be remembered.

You will be unique.

82. Live with a purpose.

It will give your life meaning.

It will give your life focus.

It will keep down boredom.

You will be a more interesting person.

83. Love.

Make love a goal.

Love God.

Love yourself.

Love others.

168 Ways To Communicate Better Now – 24 – 25 – 26

Mitch — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 04:00:34 +0000

24. Be fair.

Be honest.

Be open.

Listen.

25. Be friendly.

Speak to people.

Smile at people.

Introduce yourself.

26. Be generous.

Don’t be a miser.

Include everyone.

Share.

Communicate – Key 47

Mitch — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 12:22:22 +0000

Most of us are not mind readers. You need to communicate your thoughts, your wishes and your dreams. You also need to listen to your partner’s response or lack of responses. Communication is a two way street. Remember that you are always communicating something. You are always on stage. Be sure you are communicating the message you really want to send. If you are unclear or evasive we will supply the missing information and it most likely will not be accurate. There is never a vacuum of information. People cannot tolerate not knowing; therefore, they make up what they do not know. If there is something that I should know, you tell me. Be mindful of your body language. Everything about you enhances or distorts your message. Body language is anything other than your actual words.

Meditate – Key 39

Mitch — Mon, 24 May 2010 18:41:41 +0000

Find a quiet spot where you can be alone. Clear you mind and mediate for a few minutes. It will refresh you. Repeat often. All of us need to spend quiet time alone. There is no formula that works for everyone. Each of us must map out what works best for us. It is a personal matter. The only mistake is to think that we do not need it. We can get along without it, but our lives are richer when we make room for it in our lives. You don’t need to buy anything or subscribe to a particular philosophy or religion. Simply be still and know. It will take time and patience to clear your mind and to stop your brain from rushing. My speech professor at Furman University, Sara Lowery often quoted, “What a bleak world this would be – bleak and bare, if there were no time just to sit and stare.”

Keep Learning – Key 30

Mitch — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 14:50:34 +0000

Keep learning

Resolve to learn at least one new thing every day. With the speed of knowledge today there is plenty to learn. Take advantage of bits and pieces of time to learn. Keep a book or magazine with you and read in those waits at the airport or the doctor’s office. Listen to your friends. Ask questions. Read the newspaper. Go to the library. Watch the news. My graduate students are among the younger generation that does not read newspapers. After a semester of being required to do so, most confess that they have not only enjoyed the assignment, but intend to keep up the practice after they leave my class. Take notes on ideas that interest you so that you can do further research later.

Stop Talking – Listen – Key 3

Mitch — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 17:52:57 +0000

Listen Actively – Listening is much more than the absence of talking. Because you are not talking does not mean that you are listening. Listen with your entire body including your eyes. Listening is a skill. Develop it. It will serve you well. Many of us have developed the talent to look as if we are listening when in reality our minds are some place other than concentrating on the present. Stay with the speaker, the music. Experience the sensation that truly listening brings. Jesus said, “Those who have ears to hear, let them hear.” There is no way to remember what you did not listen to when it was presented. A taxi driver in New York City said, “I am not as smart as people think I am. I have learned to be an intellectual thief. I have learned to listen to everyone.” He has discovered one of the great secrets to a successful fulfilling life. Follow his example.