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Dream – Key -35

            Never stop dreaming. Dreams fire the imagination and warm the heart. We are never too old, too young, too rich or too poor to dream. Don’t let anyone tell you that your dreams are foolish or unrealistic. They are your dreams to enjoy and to work at fulfilling. Some dreams do come true. Of course, many never do.  Our dreams add to the richness of our lives. It’s fun to try to remember your dreams and fun to share them.

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Read! Read! Read! – Key 34

          Reading opens the world to us, stretches our imagination, kindles our knowledge and takes us far outside and deep inside ourselves. Reading takes us places we could never visit in person and introduces us to people we would never meet. If you read, you have the world at your finger tips. By reading you can find instructions for how to do almost anything. The Internet has opened the great libraries of the world to us. We can sit at our kitchen table and read newspapers from the four corners of the earth. We can track our ancestors or learn to bake an apple pie. Reading opens new opportunities for conversation and to share what we have read. Read aloud to a child, a loved one or a friend.

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Snark: It’s Ruining Our Conversation.

David Denby. Snark: It’s Mean; It’s Personal and It’s Ruining Our Conversation. New York. Simon and Schuster. ©2009.

            David Denby’s Snark is much like my undergraduate music appreciation course. I enrolled because I thought that it would be an easy enjoyable romp for a high grade. I was only half right. It was enjoyable. The same is true for Snark. People have been hunting the Snark since the publication of Lewis Carroll’s, “The Hunting of the Snark,” in 1876.  Thousands have found it and suffered its fangs but none have succeeded in killing it. Denby maintains that Snarks existed much earlier than most advocates realize and he is supported by the English Oxford Dictionary.

            Snark is much more than a casual read. There is much research presented to support the claims. Much of it enlightening and much of it is tedious. Snark is individualized. It is intended to inflict pain or to make the person snarked disappear. It is often camouflaged as humor; however, it has absolutely no redeeming characteristics. “Snark is not the same as hate speech, which is abuse directed at groups. Hate speech slashes and burns, and hopes to incite but without much attempt at humor.”  Denby further distinguishes it from teenagers on the internet who taunt the parents of children murdered or abused.

            “Snark will get you any way it can and to hell with consistency.” Denby does not advocate for the demise of humor or the very clever sarcastic comment delivered with style. Politicians are fair game. He is a fan of Stephen Colbert and Jon Stewart.

            The real consequences of Snark are often felt by the very vulnerable – people who are so undone by the attacks that they can no longer function and disappear from view. That is the real purpose to make its targets vanish. The results may come to life years later when the college student caught on a cell phone camera in some sexual exploit or smoking pot is goggled by a potential employer or he/she decides to run for a political office but the images that are stored and available forever do him in before his job interview or campaign can get off the ground.

            We have the images fresh in our minds of those two eleven year old boys who committed suicide after being relentlessly bombarded by their peers with taunts of being gay. Denby might classify this as hate speech or just bullying but it carriers with it many of the same characteristics.

            Denby offers several principles of Snark. Attack without reason. Appeal to the most common hackneyed prejudice. Race becomes heaven here, but it must be disguised. Here is a beginning statement from a McCain ad “It should be known that in 2008 the world will be blessed. They will call him … The One.”  In the South, “The One” reference usually refers to someone who has gotten above himself, usually an uppity Black.

            The third principle is to reach into a grab bag of old jokes, film clips or insults and then give each choice a new twist.  These rely on old itches or wounds for their effect.  The fourth principle is apparent even to the most casual observer; throw some mud and assume that every rumor is true or at least usable. This easily combines with the next two principles: ignore the routine responsibilities of journalism and reduce all human complexity to caricature. Ann Coulter talking on CNN reduced torture to putting a caterpillar in the same cell with a non-combatant. “Movie producers who had a few early hits followed by a flop are suddenly discovered to be ‘pricks’, arrogant losers doomed to struggle and get nowhere.”

            The last two principles are common: attack the old because nobody cares. Attack expensive highly rated restaurants.

            Standup comedians are on display. They live or die by the reactions of the audience:; however, the snarker operates in stealth. He/she uses the internet or the airwaves without fear of censorship. Some of the worst offenses are attacks on women. Every inch of their bodies is held up for ridicule. Every unfortunate sexual exploit is spread anonymously across the internet. There is no recourse. There are no standards. Wade Burleson, a noted Oklahoma pastor writing in Christian Civility in an Uncivil World offers a set of guidelines, “Ten Commandments” for the internet.[1] These offer some help, but no doubt will be totally ignored by the snarkers. The celebration of Say Something Nice Day every year on the first day of June also tackles the impossible task with gusto.

            Denby squanders the last two short chapters discussing Maureen Dowd and Keith Olbermann neither of whom he is able to clothe with any merit.

            For those among us who like the well turned phrase, the funny sarcastic remark without the barb or the intent to wound, Snark is a fun, well done read. The examples are plentiful but quarnteed to offend partisans of any stripe. Unfortunately Snark is here to stay. It has successfully eluded every attempt to kill it. It is able to continue because there are no controls and most people, even “good people” either engage in it themselves and/or are too unconcerned to confront it. The last statement of the book offers the most hope. “Vituperation that is nasty, insulting, but, well, clean may live forever. Go and commit some. You’ll feel better. You’ll make other people feel better.”


[1] Mitch Carnell, Ed. Christian Civility in an Uncivil World. Macon. Smyth & Helwys. 2009.

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Simplify – Key 33

            Clutter drains our energies and our creativity. Whether it is clogging our brain, our emotions or our surroundings it is a negative influence. Tidy up. Get rid of the clutter that distorts your life and hampers your view. You don’t need it. Clean off your desk. Clean out your closets. Most of all rid yourself of the emotional clutter that you are carrying around. If there is a problem, straighten it out and let it go. If you are helpless to change the situation, move on. If there is someone you need to forgive including yourself, do it now.

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Visualize – Key 32

Visualize

            Let your mind picture the kind of life you want and take active steps to achieve it. It will not happen in some magic moment, but little by little as you stay focused you will move closer and closer to what you want. What do you want your life to be? Where do you want to live? Give yourself permission to loosen the boundaries that have closed you in and restricted your ideal self.  Get a mental image of yourself doing the things you want to do and experiencing the life you want to live.. What steps do you need to take in order to achieve what you have pictured? What preparations are necessary? Remember Robert Shuler’s formula, “Inch by inch, everything is a cinch.”

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