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Lessons from British

Bringing in the newspaper every morning was British’s favorite activity. Even when he was 14 years old and suffering from crippling arthritis he still loved to do it.

I taught him to do this when he was just a pup. He was a quick learner. Every morning we would go out to get the paper. I would put it in his young mouth, praise him highly as he pranced tail wagging toward the door, gave him a small treat in exchange for the paper and heaped lavish praise upon him.

Soon he was bringing in so many papers that my neighbors were getting upset. “British is reading our paper more often than we are.”

When I came home from work he would greet me with a paper – any paper. British responded to praise. He thrived on small rewards. He knew what his job was and he did it with pride. He lived to please.

How did British become such an outstanding performer? First, he was given a clear picture of the task he was to perform. Second, he was given adequate supervision. Third, he was given lavish praise every step of the way. Praise was not withheld until he was a perfect performer. Fifth, he was rewarded for a job well done.

What about when he became over zealous and wanted to work overtime harvesting the newspapers from all of our neighbors? This was not a worker problem, but a management problem. Management had not anticipated such an eager worker. The worker was doing the job he had been trained to do. As happens so often. Management had failed to spell out his area of responsibility.

Workers should not be penalized because management failed to anticipate the success of its training program. I built a fence to indicate his area of responsibility. Employees need to know just what they are responsible for and how far their area of authority extends.

With his success, British took on a new responsibility. He proudly brought in the mail. He took great pride in doing it. He seemed literally to smile as cars would slow to let their passengers get a better look at this mail-carrying dog. He seemed to know that he was seen as a role mode for other neighborhood dogs.

On those rare occasions when some transgression called for a reprimand, he was heart broken. His whole demeanor changed. He was confused. He did not know what was expected of him and where he had failed. When shown the correct behavior he quickly adopted the new pattern.

If you adopt the management strategies advocated by British, you will be on your way to a much more successful and productive working environment. Employees respond to clear directions, good training, adequate supervision, appropriate rewards and genuine timely praise.

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It’s Nice to Be Nice

The First Baptist Church in Charleston, South Carolina began an annual event a couple of years ago called Say Something Nice Sunday which is scheduled for this Sunday, June 7th, 2009. Many Southern Baptist Associations and Conventions have adopted the day themselves, including the historic Charleston Baptist Association and the South Carolina Baptist Convention.

Mitch Carnell, a member of First Baptist and a leader in the observance, said that the special day “came out of the church’s history of respecting all Christians of whatever persuasion, proclaimed in the church covenant of 1791.”

“Think of the joy on one day,” he told The Baptist Courier, “when no Christian will say anything bad about another Christian or Christian group or anyone else. It is to be a day of affirmation, a day which celebrates our unity in diversity.”

Jim Austin, executive director-treasurer of the South Carolina Baptist Convention, in a statement released to the Courier, “You never know how a word fitly spoken may be powerfully used by God to brighten someone’s day, to encourage someone ready to give up, to inspire one to true greatness. Speak those words to someone.”

“Let only positive words flow from your lips on this one day,” Carnell suggested, and then wondered, “Who knows? Perhaps if we can manage for one day, we can push it to two days or even more.”

I am cooperating with Mitch Carnell and other authors on a book that will be published soon entitled “Christian Civility.” I have read the authors’ proofs and a variety of men and women who have contributed to the book have done an excellent job of showing the importance of civility in our lives and culture.

Ironically, James A. Smith, Sr, the Executive Editor of the Florida Baptist Witness who opposes “Say Something Nice Sunday” opined in an editorial the following:

“Niceness is breaking out in South Carolina Baptist churches. I pray the rest of the Southern Baptist Convention is not next.”
In the spirit of this weekend let me say something nice about the editor of the Florida Baptist Witness: God seems to be in the business of answering Jim’s prayers.

In His Grace,

Wade Burleson

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Turn Down The Rhetoric

The shooting at the Holocaust Museum, the murder of the doctor who performed late term abortions, the shooting of the recruiter and other similar events are indications that the willingness to reason, negotiate, and compromise is sorely missing in our civic life. Rhetoric has risen to a fever pitch. At a time when we should be celebrating the gains we have achieved in our democracy, we are letting an extreme element of society sew seeds of hatred and distrust.

It is way past time to return to a path of reason. Because we disagree with each other does not make either of us evil. There is no way to justify murder. There is an overwhelming need to soften our national and local discourse. The cities of Charleston and North Charleston have established Say Something Nice Day. Many of our churches celebrate Say Something Nice Sunday; however, even that modest attempt at more civil dialogue has brought forth unbelievable criticism of, “An attempt to create an atmosphere of anything goes.” Nothing could be further from the truth. The message is that we have the ability to disagree without descending into viciousness. We will never agree on all the issues great and small that divide us; however, we are capable of respecting one another and if we search diligently we can find some common ground.

The month of June is National Better Communication Month. Why not give a more civil tone a try? Why not try to speak with less fire and more reason? Why not tune the hate merchants out at least for this month? The return to civility starts with each one of us. We can each be an example of mature reason and communication.

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